Saturday, June 19, 2010

Pegging





El pegging es aquella practica sexual en la que una mujer penetra analmente a un hombre mediante un dildo con correas, llamado strap-on dildo en el mundo anglosajón.


El termino viene del verbo ingles to peg: fijar. Este neologismo nació en el 2001 en la columna semanal sobre consejos sexuales de Dan Savage. En la jerga coloquial también se usa la expresión bend over boyfriend (novio inclinado) para referirse al hombre que realiza estas practicas, utilizándose ademas el acronimo BOB.

La industria del porno ha producido bastantes títulos sobre dicho tema: la serie Babes Ballin’ Boys, Pegging 101 y otros. Escenas de este tipo son usuales en el sexo con dominación femenina: Femdom Sex, abreviación de Female Domination Sex. Hay varias paginas sobre esta temática sexual: meninpain.com, captivemale.com, guysgetfucked.com y otras.


Por otra parte, Shar Rednour dirigió a finales de los 90 las guías audiovisuales Bend Over Boyfriend: A Couple’s Guide to Male Anal Pleasure (1998) y Bend Over Boyfriend 2: Less Talkin’, More Rockin’ (1999), con la participación de la sexologa Carol Queen, experta en tales temas.

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Muchas mujeres lo han pensado al menos una vez a lo largo de su vida, de hecho para algunas es la respuesta sistemática cuando su pareja les propone practicar sexo anal: ok, lo hacemos pero si luego me dejas hacerte lo mismo.

Esto para muchos hombres significa lo mismo que no, pero qué pasaría si respondemos “de acuerdo”. Lo más probable es que el miedo y la excitación la invada, por la respuesta inesperada, por ver si de veras tienes el valor de probar, por la posibilidad de penetrarte, etc.

Si has llegado hasta este artículo indudablemente albergas ya algún interés, pues te cuento que es una práctica cada vez más habitual y que de hecho también se conoce como pegging, que traducido sería algo así como estacar o en versión extrema empalar.

El pegging se define como una mujer penetrando a un hombre analmente con ayuda de un arnés, concretamente un hombre heterosexual. En ningún momento se tiene que entender esta práctica como que el hombre es menos macho por ser penetrado, nada más lejos de la realidad, simplemente es una nueva vía para obtener placer.

El placer para la mujer viene dado tanto psicológicamente como físicamente. Psicológicamente porque la mayoría de ellas ha soñado alguna vez con tener una polla, con saber qué se siente en el rol de dominador viendo como penetras en el cuerpo de tu pareja. En el plano físico, si el arnés incorpora un dildo doble ella puede ser penetrada al mismo tiempo que penetra.

El placer para el hombre es directo, por un lado viéndose en un situación desconocida, dominado por una mujer y sintiendo como se le dilata el esfínter, como le penetra el dildo y como éste percute una y otra vez en su próstata estimulándolo más y más. Una sensación única la de correrse mientras estamos siendo penetrados, notamos como el esfínter aprieta al dildo y como el pene se hincha más de lo normal para acabar estallando en un orgasmo incomparable.

Para algunos el sexo anal es algo sucio, perverso y que hace daño… sin embargo nada de esto es cierto si se hace bien. Hoy os voy a explicar como practicar sexo anal:

1. Lo principal y más importante es querer, porque querer es poder, necesitamos estar relajados y tener plena confianza en nuestra pareja, comunicarnos en todo momento con ella para indicarle si debe seguir o parar.

2. Tener a mano un bote de lubricante anal si puede ser, o sino de algún otro lubricante especialmente indicado para tener relaciones sexuales. No seas rácano y olvidate del aceite de oliva, la vaselina o cualquier otro lubricante similar que ni lubrica como debe y que además puede dañar preservativos y los tejidos del recto.

3. Higiene, otro punto muy importante, de todos es sabido que por el ano defecamos y por tanto hay muchas bacterias que podrían provocar infecciones y malos olores. Así que lo primero es pasar por la ducha y mejor aún si disponemos de una pera anal que facilita la limpieza de la cavidad.

4. Relax, hay que ir poco a poco puesto que vamos a dilatar un músculo que está acostumbrado a hacerlo pero durante cortos espacios de tiempo. Hay que tomarlo como un juego y no ser impacientes, puede llevarnos 10, 20 o 30 minutos… el tiempo da igual, lo que queremos es divertirnos y disfrutar.

Os recomiendo que aumentéis progresivamente, es decir, podéis empezar metiendo medio dedo, luego un dedo completo y esperar a que el ano se acostumbre y se relaje. Vigila que nunca falte lubricante y comienza a jugar, mete y saca el dedo suavemente, ve estirando los músculos y cuando veas que puedes, trata de pasar a dos dedos y así poco a poco hasta lograr el tamaño de un pene.

Cada hombre es diferente y en ningún momento debéis enfadaros si la cosa va despacio o si a vuestra pareja no termina de gustarle, hay hombres que lo disfrutan y hombres que les hace sentir humillado o que simplemente no obtienen placer. De lo que se trata es de experimentar, si gusta genial, sino pues nada, a otra cosa :)


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On Pegging

by Jason Stotts

[Note: this is a repost of an essay that originally appeared Sept. 13, 2009 on the old Erosophia. I am reposting it in anticipation of a new, longer, essay on Pegging that I will be putting up soon.]

Pegging, for those who don’t know, is the fine art of a woman sodomizing a man with a strap-on dildo. It is also commonly known as “Bend Over Boyfriend.” Now, you may be wondering why people would want to do this and what the implications are for the people who practice it. If so, read on.

The first question that people always ask about pegging is this: why would any man want to be fucked in the ass? The answer to this question, however, is simple: the anterior (front) wall of the anus provides direct access to a man’s prostate. The prostate, for those who have never heard of it, is the seat of a man’s orgasm. While for most men the penis is the focus of the orgasm, and usually it is stimulation here that is also the source of a man’s orgasm, the locus of a man’s orgasm is actually his prostate. This is the seat of the mysterious mounting pressure that a man feels before orgasm and the location from which his orgasm emanates.

The best, and only direct, way to access a man’s prostate is through his anus. If one reaches a finger into a man’s anus about an inch or two and feels the anterior wall of the anus, you will feel a small lump. This lump is the prostate itself. Providing direct stimulation to the prostate can cause a man to have an intense orgasm, even without any penile stimulation.

The point of pegging, then, is to stimulate a man’s prostate in order to give him intense orgasms. While this stimulation can be done manually (with a finger(s) or even a whole hand) or with a sex toy (a dildo or the legendary Aneros), pegging provides a unique sensation that is more similar to anal penetration with a penis.

So, why would a man want this? Because it’s a unique kind of orgasm that feels very different from orgasms achieved through penile stimulation alone. Even so, many men worry that their desire for anal play, and prostate stimulation in particular, might mean that they’re truly gay. However, this fear is completely unfounded. If we have clarity in our concepts, then we know that homosexuality is characterized by desire for a person that is of the same sex. If you feel no such desire, then you cannot possibly be homosexual. Even though a woman wears a strap-on for pegging, this does not change her nature as a woman. It does mean that she will take the penetrative role, but as we will discuss, penetration is not the essence of masculinity and donning a strap-on does not make a woman into a man or pseudo-man. In pegging, the anal penetration is specifically done by a woman to a man and desiring a certain sexual activity with a woman could hardly be considered homosexual. This is not to insinuate that there is anything wrong with homosexuality or bisexuality; there is not.

Now typically pegging is practiced by committed couples. It would be atypical for a man to go on a first date with a woman and ask her to sodomize him with a strap-on. While one could perhaps hire a prostitute to do such a thing, I think it is much more common for this practice to be done by two partners in a relationship. If this is the case, that pegging is usually done by a couple in a relationship, then won’t the female partner sodomizing the male partner disrupt the “natural distribution of power” in the couple and be emasculating to the man? Not necessarily. In order to understand why, we must reconsider the natures of masculinity and femininity.

Although in our culture the common assumption is that the essence of masculinity is to dominate the feminine, this really does not have much basis in fact. Indeed, in which facts of reality are we to base such a claim? I want to argue that it makes much more sense to say that masculinity and femininity are primarily about the experience of being an embodied man or woman. The experience of being an embodied man or woman is often brought about or accentuated through sexual contrast between the partners. This occurs, in a heterosexual context, through the contrast of the male and female bodies.

Sexual contrast highlights the dramatic differences between male bodies and female bodies and allows each of the lovers to experience a heightened sense of their own body. That is, through this sense of contrast a person becomes sexually visible to himself and his partner and this visibility allows him to fully experience being an embodied man or woman. By noting the differences between my male body and my partner’s female body, I am better able to appreciate those things that make my body distinctly masculine and this appreciation leads me to focus on these things: this causes me to experience my body as a distinctly masculine body. Thus, we can say that at the most fundamental level, masculinity is the experience of oneself as an embodied man and femininity is the experience of oneself as an embodied woman.

Because the prostate is a distinctly male organ, pegging also allows you to experience yourself as an embodied man. Consequently, there is nothing emasculating about a man desiring prostate stimulation.

Furthermore, alternating which partner is active, or having both partners be active, can help a couple to become closer to each other and help them understand the full range of their sexuality. If we only ever are active or passive, we will never understand the whole range of our sexuality as we will cut ourselves off from parts of it.

Given our new understanding of the natures of masculinity and femininity, we can now understand why there is no danger to a relationship if a couple chooses to engage in pegging. It is more likely to actually improve the relationship than it is to harm it, as long as both partners engage in it voluntarily and with open communication.

Now let us consider the practical implications of pegging like how to actually do it.

The first major step is that a man has to be comfortable with his body. This sounds strange, but many men have very strong fears about their anuses. They are afraid to touch their anuses because they are afraid that it will mean they are gay, because they are worried about feces, or perhaps they are worried about being “loose” anally (and anal incontinence). We have already seen that the first worry is founded only in conceptual confusion and therefore need not be seriously addressed.

The second worry, though, is hard for many people to overcome. Luckily, with a little hygiene the anus is actually a fairly clean place. If we look to physiology, we will discover that the rectum (which is the part of the anus immediately inside the asshole, or sphincter) is not used for storing feces. That is, your rectum does not usually have any feces in it, it is only present when you have that feeling of having to defecate. Typically, the material waste that will form the feces is in the colon and only passes into the rectum when it’s ready to be expelled. Thus, if you don’t feel like you have to defecate, there is probably little to no fecal matter in the rectum. In terms of keeping the outside of the anus clean, a little soap and water in the shower everyday combined with good wiping skills can more than handle that problem.

The third worry is probably not as large for most men, but is certainly raised frequently. It is, however, also unfounded and has its origins in either ignorance or maliciousness. Either way, it turns out that the anal opening is actually a set of two muscle groups, an internal and an external sphincter. Of these, we have conscious control of the external one, while the internal one is involuntary. Since the anal opening is made up of sphincters, and these are muscles, one can actually exercise one’s anus to increase muscle tone and avoid any sort of incontinence issues. Just like all other muscles in the body, the more they are used, the stronger they become. So, not only does anal play not cause incontinence, it can actually make the anus stronger!

There are many other benefits of pegging for men. The greatest of these is certainly the intensity of the orgasms from prostate stimulation. Furthermore, overcoming shame and disgust at the body help you to become a more integrated person and once you move beyond the idea that parts of you are “inherently dirty,” then you can open yourself to pleasure from those sources. Pegging also allows you to see your sexuality, in whatever manifestation it takes, as a natural extension of your body’s great capacity for pleasure. Not only that, but pegging helps a man to understand more of the full range of his masculinity and challenges narrow and rigid conceptions of masculinity that were designed to conform to the religious procreative standard.

Pegging also serves to increase anal health by strengthening the anal muscles through use and increasing blood flow to the region. This demonstrable truth stands in stark contrast to the scare tactics that insist that anal eroticism will cause incontinence or damage to the anus. Perhaps lastly, although there are certainly more benefits, is that pegging helps a man to understand the role of a woman in being penetrated. This understanding can help him to better appreciate what his partner feels during sex and how different kinds of positions or thrusting techniques can feel vary different on the receiving end.

There are also many benefits for women as well. The largest benefit for the female partner is in the understanding gained about what it is like to be a man. This will help a woman to understand the complexity and endurance that certain positions necessitate and the level of exertion it takes to be the penetrative partner. There is also the joy that comes from knowing that you have given your partner exquisite pleasure and knowing that you were the source of their pleasure. Also, many strap-ons provide clitoral stimulation so that the female partner is also being stimulated while using the strap-on on her partner.

In terms of benefits for the couple, the biggest is that of enhanced communication. When one partner represses or denies their desires because they fear what their partner may say or do it is unhealthy and fosters a relationship where the partners cannot be themselves. Being open about your desires and needs helps your partner to be more open about theirs as well and helps to build a relationship of trust and understanding. This helps you to feel psychologically visible to your partner and makes your relationship stronger.

Now, of course, pegging goes against all of our cultural taboos and prior conceptions of what is right and good in the bedroom. I believe that in this essay I’ve shown that these are not correct and that we can come to have a better understanding of the nature of sexuality by simply opening our minds to other possibilities. I challenge you to think about your own position on anal eroticism and any qualms you may have about it.

Jason Stotts





Pegging is a sexual practice in which a woman penetrates a man's anus with a strap-on dildo. The neologism "pegging" was popularized when it became the winning entry in a contest in Dan Savage's Savage Love sex advice column, held after an observation was made that there was no common name for the act.[1]

Physical pleasure

In terms of physical pleasure, women may get direct stimulation from the base of the dildo, or in the case of a double-ended dildo, from vaginal penetration. A woman can use a secondary vibrator, between the dildo and her clitoris, to get pleasure from pegging. Men may find stimulation of the anus, rectum, and adjacent organs, and particularly the prostate, enjoyable, which can lead to an anal orgasm. Some men enjoy masturbating (or being masturbated) during pegging.

Psychological pleasure

Some people who engage in pegging may find pleasure in the psychological aspects of domination and submission which can be evoked through the practice. In particular, it is quite common for a femdom roleplay to culminate in a pegging. Given the stigma associated with anal sex (and its association with male homosexuality), some people, many of them heterosexual, derive enjoyment from the associated taboo. Advice columnist Dan Savage wrote that he believes all men should try pegging at least once, as it may introduce them to a new enjoyable sexual activity and illuminate them to the receiver's perspective in sex.[1] A man may cross-dress in feminine lingerie such as stockings, garters and high heeled shoes. This completion of the role reversal can be deeply erotic for some. Some people, particularly genderqueer people or those who engage in genderfuck may enjoy the gender-transgressive aspects of pegging. Some females may enjoy the feeling of having a "simulated penis".


Instructional materials

A few instructional movies and books have emerged in recent years, including Bend Over Boyfriend, produced by Fatale Media, Inc., and directed by Shar Rednour, SIR Video co-founder.

The American pornographic film director and sex educator Tristan Taormino released an instructional pegging movie in 2009 by Vivid Entertainment Studio. Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men features a detailed explanation about male anal pleasure and strap-on dildo sex. She teaches a workshop with instructions and skills for safe and pleasurable female on male anal sex. The material provides three scenes in which couples of porn stars explore different sexual devices and positions for pegging.

As an accomplished author of numerous sex guides and informational books on various sexual taboos, Violet Blue wrote and released "The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Strap-On Sex" in 2007.

Pegging in pornography

Pegging has recently been featured in a number of pornographic movies; the first pegging scene (long before the term was developed) appears to have been in the non-pornographic 1970 film Myra Breckinridge, based on the novel of the same name by Gore Vidal, although it was not explicit. The first such explicit scene is believed to have occurred in the 1975 film The Opening of Misty Beethoven.

In the 21st century, female-to-male strap-on pornography has suddenly become a flourishing industry in the U.S., with such a high market value that a number of studios focused primarily on this subject started producing dedicated series about it. The most notable ones are Strap It On (black women on white men), Babes Balling Boys, which currently has sixteen editions, Strap Attack, Strap-on Sirenz, Strap-on Chicks, Boss Bitches, which currently has over two dozen editions, various movies produced by LEDA Studios, and San Francisco-based Men In Pain. It is unclear what triggered the increasing popularity of this genre, but there are now several hundred exclusively pegging titles, as well as twice as many more bisexual and straight films with strap-on scenes. Well-known female porn stars who have professed an enjoyment of pegging their male partners with strap-on dildos include Taylor Wane, Brittany Andrews, and Monique Covét. When questioned about her particular kink Monique Covét memorably replied, "If we women have to take it from behind, then why not a man?"[2]

Cultural aspects

The theatre company Pack of Others have an entire theatrical performance devoted to "spreading the word about the pleasures of prostate stimulation and strap-on sex." The show has toured nationally and won Best Comedy at the 2008 San Francisco Fringe Festival.

The practice has received burgeoning "mainstream attention" in the online world.[3]

Examples in popular media

  • There is a depiction of pegging in the William S. Burroughs novel Naked Lunch. The dildo used in the scene is called a Steely Dan III, and is the source from which the musical group Steely Dan takes its name[4].
  • Pegging was featured in the television show Weeds, during the episode "Crush Girl Love Panic", in a scene where Andy Botwin, expecting to have sex with Yael Hoffman in her apartment, is surprised when she refuses to have vaginal sex with him, and dons a large strap-on.[5].
  • A similar scene was featured in the UK comedy Peep Show. Jeremy and his girlfriend decide to act out each other's biggest fantasy. After having Jeremy's threesome, his girlfriend takes him to a bedroom. He does not know what she intends; she turns around and is wearing a large strap-on.[6][7]



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